Being pregnant with a very active toddler is entertaining and challenging. Luckily, I am healthy and fit and haven’t suffered from symptoms that afflict many others. I can still zip up my regular coats (at 7.5 months) and have only purchased two maternity items this time around (a warm/winter hoody dress and an extra shirt to go with my collection of two other maternity tops).
I think I’m bigger than I was the first time around, but probably not by much. I may just feel bigger because it’s winter and I can’t just throw on a skirt and step outside. My belly button hasn’t “popped” yet and my wedding ring isn’t feeling tight. Because there is more relaxin in my body, my ACL knee feels a little sore from time to time, but it is definitely nothing to complain about.
Overall, I feel great and I’m happy and excited to be an incubator for our next little munchkin. And I know I’m lucky to have such an easy time of it. But it still irks me when someone makes a comment about pregnancy that is inappropriate. People say the most insulting things to pregnant women, things that you would never say to someone who isn’t growing a child in their stomach. Why?
The only thing you should say to someone who is pregnant is “you look beautiful/great/lovely/stunning/glowing [choose your own positive adjective].” And there are plenty of things you shouldn’t say. I’m not the only one to feel this way. Check out here or here or here for some examples of inappropriate things people have said to pregnant women.
I don’t usually rant on this blog. But I haven’t been able to stop thinking about it lately. So please, if you are in the vicinity of someone who is pregnant, please say something nice and leave it at that. You might just make her day.
You look so healthy Al, no one should say anything detrimental
but people are people and awkward at saying the right thing many times. You carry your pregnancies very well. The second time around you already have a first to think about and that can make it
harder or easier. With you I didn’t put on too much weight but
with Dan at the end I retained fluid and well for my height……..
I was very big. It all comes off very fast when you are running after
two little ones and nursing so all the talk from others means
nothing………in just a short time. You look great and healthy.
You don’t seem tired. I felt very tired at the end of my pregnancies.
Glad that isn’t you.